You can be attracted to the same person and want different things. That doesn’t make either of you wrong. It does make honesty worth the effort.
Say what you know. And what you don’t.
“I’m open to a relationship.” “I’m looking for something casual right now.” “I’d like to meet and see how it feels.” Each can be an honest beginning. None has to be a promise about the future.
What helps less is agreeing to something you don’t want just to keep the conversation going. Attraction doesn’t erase different intentions, and hope isn’t a substitute for a conversation.
Honesty doesn’t have to feel like pressure.
You can talk about intentions without asking someone to plan their whole life. “What feels right for you at the moment?” leaves room for a human answer. “I’m still figuring it out” is an answer, too — and you get to decide whether that works for you.
Consent keeps being a choice.
Agreeing to meet isn’t agreeing to physical contact. Saying yes once isn’t saying yes every time. Even after a great date, someone can change direction. Give a no room to stand, and don’t try to infer boundaries from silence.
chickchak makes room for different intentions. A connection starts with two people who can say what they want — and hear each other.
General editorial content from chickchak. This article does not imply an intention-filter feature in the app.